Someone on a WhatsApp group yesterday sent a message about a person I had met a few years back. I met him in a local pub. He was a mild-mannered man with a gentle voice. Interesting and interested in other people’s lives. He died in 2018. Some of his friends remembered him and also pointed out what a gentleman he was. It’s very special that manners, dignity and respect are still well regarded.
?This reminds me of the people one encounters in daily life. You get the self-centered person who just talks about themselves and their personal dramas. They go on about how they solved their problems and how they’re solving other people’s problems and on and on. They bombard you with a barrage of verbal sludge.
I’m not being nasty, but I’d rather avoid people like this.
Then you get others that are soft-spoken, mild-mannered, and listen to you. I always think that, as someone once said, if you say three sentences in a row, pause for the other person to speak. It shows you are not trying to dominate the conversation.
Someone I know, if you haven’t phoned him for a while, gets all uppity and says, “what’s wrong? Why haven’t you called me?” So the phone call starts on this poor footing. Yes, if you’ve got diplomacy, you handle this type of person with kid gloves. They are the ones which I’ve written about before who are trying to latch onto anything in your life that’s wrong so that they can dig into it and give you advice. These are the advice givers. I think they are more intolerable than the advice seekers.
I came across an employer who is treating their employees with contempt and total disrespect. If you go to one of their branches, you’ll find that no one is smiling or happy. Their staff have been so beaten up by management that they are just hanging on to their jobs. They see so many people being fired unfairly and wonder about whether they will be next.
I don’t care whether you are in a work situation, family environment, or among strangers. Surely your good manners should follow you wherever you go. You can’t be one person in one area of your life and another in yet another. That’s insane behavior. It’s how people with schizophrenia act. I don’t want to give advice on how to deal with people with dignity and respect. I’m sure if you’ve read this far you’re not interested in a list of what to do. The spirit of things is that you know what is right and you know what is wrong. You need to do what you think is best. There are so many people telling other people on all sorts of platforms what to do that it’s actually become mind-numbing. If you feel uncomfortable with braggarts, liars, and bores, remove yourself from the situation. If people are respectful of you, treat you with dignity, then it’s worth hanging around people like this and doing business with people them.
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